What does 'enough' look like for you?

Money, status, achievement, attention, validation, novelty — there is a personal threshold for each of these, and people who don't know their own threshold tend to keep moving it. The goalposts shift: enough becomes more, and more becomes a new version of enough, and the person who agreed to share a life with them finds themselves on a path whose destination keeps changing. Understanding what constitutes genuine sufficiency for someone is one of the most useful things you can learn about them. Pick someone whose 'enough' you can actually picture — whose sense of a good life overlaps substantially with yours. Not identical; some divergence is natural and interesting. But compatible enough that you're both working toward something you'd both recognize as arrived at. The people who've never defined their enough for themselves tend to be difficult to be in a relationship with long-term, not because they're bad people, but because they're perpetually in transit toward a destination they can't describe.