You're the one always initiating definition

Every check-in about the relationship comes from your side. You're the one who raises the question of what you are to each other. You're the one who asks where things are going. You're the one who notices that the conversation needs to happen and initiates it. They respond, sometimes warmly — and then nothing changes, and the topic goes dormant until you raise it again. If only one of you is interested in defining what this is, that asymmetry is the definition. This pattern is worth sitting with carefully. The person who never initiates the definition conversation may not be cruel or calculating — they may simply be comfortable with ambiguity in a way you aren't, or relieved that the status quo never requires them to state a commitment clearly. But comfort with ambiguity, sustained over months, is itself a statement. People define what they want to keep. The consistent absence of initiative on their side is telling you something about what this is to them.