Plans never go past two weeks out

Concerts three months from now. The festival in August. The trip someone mentioned and both of you seemed excited about. None of it gets discussed, even when the natural progression of the conversation would make it the obvious next thing to say. The future tense is systematically absent from the grammar of your time together, and that absence does a lot of quiet work. It means neither of you — or at least one of you — isn't picturing this continuing long enough for those plans to be worth making. Watch for the pattern, not isolated instances. Some people are simply bad at planning ahead, and that's a personality trait rather than a statement about the relationship. But if the horizon of your shared plans is consistently, reliably short — if 'next weekend' is as far as anything ever goes — ask yourself why. The people who see a future with you plan into it. The absence of those plans is a form of honest communication.